Gratitude a BURDEN Revenge a  PLEASURE

The holy book says "if the way of a man is pleasing unto God, even his enemy will be at peace with him". Christ ask a very important question "what  benefit is there loving only those who loved you? Even sinners love those who love them". "Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends" that was Abraham Lincoln when he answered a lady who asked him, why don't you call the Southerners an "irreconcilable  enemies who must be destroyed"?

It is natural to want to employ your friends. when you find yourself in times of need, The world is a harsh place and your friends soften the harshness. Perhaps you know them, why depending on a stranger when you have a friend at hand. 

"Make friends of your clients not a client of your friend."

The problem is that you often did not know your friend as well as you imagine. Friends often agree on things in order to avoid an argument. 

"The strongest bond of friendship is mutual enemy"

They covered up their unpleasant qualities so as to not offend each order. They laugh extra hard at each other's jokes. Since honesty rarely strengthens friendships, you may never know how a friend truly feels. "

"In  prosperity our friends know us - in adversity we know our friends" 

Friends will say they love your poetry, adore your music, envy your taste of fashion - may be they mean it but often time they do not. 

" Business brings money - friends hardly does".

Trully I love you as a friend but you limit my thought capability,  words of gratitude "THANK YOU" I share withyou does not requires any thinking to utter it. Had it been you are my enemy,  my mind would have conceived various thought of defence and revenge with which I would have taken a decision on what to do. 

"Keep your friends close and your enemies closer" 

Your coming does not pose any challenge; I need not make any special arrangements myself in welcoming you. Thereby,I am limited in earning any experience from your associate. If you have been my enemy I would have thought of strategies to adopt in keeping you close, and map out ways to prevent you from gaining knowledge of limitations in my surroundings.

    " A friend in power is a friend lost"

 Using my strengths and knowledge of your weaknesses  would have been weapons to suppress your thoughts of devouring my territory. But you are my friend, all you required is a gratitude not a revenge, therefore I am burden with the desire to give out what earns me nothing; because thoughtless efforts does not produce anything meaningful, but having to strategically craft out a plan; earns you a reward of success or failure which might be improved upon for a better result.

Friendship like complascent,  limit our 

ability and resolve to see challenges that will create opportunity for us to expand and grow. 

        The strongest bond of friendship is a mutual enemy.      

Knowing what will happen if you put a finger in the mouth of a lion, you would stay clear of it.

With friends you will have no such caution, and if you let them, they will eat you alive with ingratitude.

All I want in  a friend is someone who brings the best in me and not one who embrace my weaknesses. Therefore let your gratitude be a pleasure, and revenge a Burden on me.

There is no teacher but the enemy. No one but the enemy will tell you what the enemy is going to do. No one but the enemy will ever teach you how to destroy and conquer. Only the enemy show you where you are weak. Only the enemy shows you where he is strong. And the rules of the game are what you can do to him and what you can stop him from doing to you. – Mazer Rackham

Olajuwon Patrick.(juwonpat@gmail.com)